Wednesday, December 23, 2015

Can it be 10 weeks since this little one entered our lives?  In this short time, it seems as though we have been through every emotion.  We love this little girl more than we could have imagined.  Since I was unable to get to my blog in China due to all social media being blocked by the government, I will do a quick over view.  I think Lee and I would say it was the hardest two weeks of our lives.  In our very selfish nature we questioned God in every way.  It was not that we didn’t love this little one, but the extent of the work ahead of us was overwhelming.  We praise the Lord for Lee’s mom being with us and the love and support she supplied to us in a time of need.  We are also so thankful for the prayers at home for us.  They were felt and it is what got us through.   Shira & Cody did a great job on the home front while we were gone keeping all the animals alive and taking care of house hold chores.  Also a big thank you to my parents for bringing food, supporting Cody at his soccer games, and helping out where needed.

A little about Kylie.  Her smile makes you melt.  She soon got the nickname Smilie Kylie!  She has a great sense of humor.  Last night she rubbed her hand in orange juice before reaching for Kate’s hand to pray with a mischievous grin.  She loves to hide behind the corner, as if to surprise the next person to come around,  but she is always betrayed by her giggles.  She is scared to death of dogs and cats.  Her first American Girl doll given to her by Grandma also scared her.  We all waited in great anticipation as she unwrapped the doll thinking this would be the best gift ever.  Too our surprise she took the lid off the box and fear entered her little face and she pushed the doll away.  At first we were in shock and then we all started laughing.  We believe it was too real looking and she thought it was alive when the eye lids moved. Even though Kylie is six she is at a 4 year old level in  most areas.  We are trusting with love, encouragement, therapy, and time she will catch up.  She is starting to understand a lot of English but her speech is coming slowly due to her cleft palate.  She will need more surgery for her cleft, but she need to get through another open heart surgery first.  We started her in preschool and, most days, it is going well.  She is in therapy for speech, occupation therapy, and physical therapy.  She has an arm brace that she wears at night to keep her fingers in an outward position.  At this point she does not use her right hand.  She is also being fitted for a leg brace that will strengthen her right leg.  More on that to come.

We were home less than two  weeks and we learned Kylie needed more heart surgery.  We knew when we adopted this little one she had had heart surgery in the past, but were hoping that everything was repaired and she was good to go.  This was not the case.  We were not prepared for this news, and again we were thrown for a loop.  Our pediatric cardiologist suggested we send the preliminary tests to both Chop and Boston.  There were two surgery options one being a bigger one, more extensive, and more of a total repair, but the doctor said due to some damage in her heart she was not sure she would be a candidate.  We did not like the second option because it would not allow her to utilize her whole heart and, over time, it would put a lot of pressure on her liver.  So we prayed that there would be a surgeon willing to perform the larger surgery on Kylie.  Our prayers were answered last week when we received news from a doctor in Boston who is willing to take on Kylie's case and perform the surgery needed to repair her little heart.  We praised the Lord for this news.  We will have more tests in February and are hoping the surgery will be in February or March.  Please pray for this upcoming surgery and complete healing.

Also a big thank you to all who brought us food.  I argued with my good friend and sister in law who lined up the meals.  I truly felt as though we would not need all those meals. Well they knew better than I how much I did need those meals.  I remember a family member telling me you think you feel normal after you have a baby, but it’s really not till 12 weeks and you look back that you realize you still were not yourself.  Let’s just say some nights just cleaning the dishes up was more than I could handle.  So THANK YOU to each of you who brought a meal. It was a huge blessing to our family!

One of the biggest blessings is watching our other 4 children interact with her.  Shira being our psych major is the one to work with her to teach her cats and dogs are not bad.  Mitch, like daddy, throws her into the sky and she screams with delight.  Cody is the best at playing with her when he gets back from school.  Kate is a huge helper in all ways - getting her ready in the morning and teaching Kylie how to conduct herself with kindness.  They share a room and she brings her down each morning, after Kylie typically wakes her and she doesn’t complain.  She helps with bathing her and other care.  We are blessed!

Lee and I are so grateful that God made it so clear to both of us we were to adopt.  Not only that, but God also made it so clear that it was specifically to be Kylie.  This give us great peace on the days that are very difficult.  We believe God has BIG plans for this little one.  Thanks for doing this journey with us. My intent was for the blog to end after we were home.  But due to the heart surgery and needing all the prayer support we can get I will continue it through the next couple months. We are gracious we serve a mighty God who walks beside us.  And are so blessed with family and friends who have been by our side to love and encourage us.

May you be blessed and a blessing to other this Christmas!

Kylie had fear the first time I put her in a grocery cart then got a huge smile when I pushed her.
Elena has been our interpreter for Kylie, and now our friend!




Kylie adores all her siblings.


Grandma is graciously taking Kylie to her therapy every Tuesday while I'm at work.  We are hoping to have the leg brace in a couple weeks to help with her balance and walking.  



Thursday, October 29, 2015

Hello Friends! We have had an AMAZING first week with Miss. Kylie. She is full of energy, and she loves to test the limits, but she is never without a smile. Here a few (poor quality) pictures that I pulled off my phone.

Stay tuned for actual-journal updates from my mom. As you can imagine, she has been busy transitioning back after being away for two weeks.

Thank you for your prayer! Please continue to pray that Kylie would feel at home, here in Lancaster County, and that she would continue enjoying Preschool!



Tuesday, October 20, 2015

The Lord has answered so many of our prayers, and we are only two weeks into this new journey. Kylie is absolutely beautiful, and my dad said that Kate is the best big sister in the ENTIRE WORLD! I am so proud to call myself a Kauffman, and I am so excited to meet my newest family member in less than 24 hours. Apparently these pictures were taken when they were making their trek towards the airport! Thank you for all your prayers, and we would ask that you continue to pray for the family as we adjust to the new dynamics.


Thursday, October 15, 2015

I had to make this a separate post because it is a BEAUTIFUL picture of three of the most beautiful women in my life. I love them and I am so excited for them to be home. 
More pictures! I can not wait to hear their stories. I believe this first one is from a physical therapy session. 






Wednesday, October 14, 2015

My Grandma sent me these pictures and said, "Hanging out with Grandma"... This Little One is RIDICULOUSLY spoiled and I hope she feels totally loved. 

Praise the Lord for this Little Lady's smile and enthusiasm. He is sovereign and has brought Miss. Kylie into our family, that we would see His joy through her bright personality. Thank you for your prayers!

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Shira Here - Thank you all for your love and support through this process. We covet your prayers as my parents, Kate, and Grandma strive to know and understand Miss. Kylie. Please pray specifically for a peaceful heart as they navigate the many legal processes and relational building processes. I am attaching a two pictures - I do not know the story behind them but I am encouraged to see how comfortable she seems in the strong arms of her new earthly father. She has no idea how blessed she is to be placed in the arms of that man. More so, I pray that she would learn to see her Heavenly Father through these experiences. Praise Him for all things that have been made NEW in these last few days

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Monday, October 12, 2015

Hello Friends and Family -

My parents are having issues logging on to the blog while in China (due to their attempts to minimize social media use). So I, Shira, will be passing on pictures updates for you all to enjoy. My hearts leaps for joy every time I see that my phone is receiving another picture. I can not wait to share them all with you.

My parents have said that Miss. Kylie Kauffman is full of joy. According to my Dad, "she's full of energy and is always smiling!... She has learned to say 'grandma' already!". I am so excited to meet her in about a week and a half.

Thanks for all of your prayers!




Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Here We Go....


I will be posting pictures and short updates periodically over our two weeks in China. Below I have posted our story up until this point. Please feel no pressure to read these journal entries below.  I’m guessing you all simply logged onto this sight to see a couple pictures as we adopt our little Kylie.  Any one close to me knows I can’t spell for the life of me, I’m terrible grammatically, and I just plain don’t journal or write.  However I didn’t want to forget any of the details of this last year so I put it all on paper for Kylie to read some day.    But I decided to share this story, not to give any glory to myself but all to God.  (Quite honestly most days I stink at this thing called life.  I get down, grouchy, jealous, fearful, and I’m just plain not nice!)  So if you do decide to continue reading, grab a cup of coffee and find a comfy spot…

October 4th, 2015 (Sunday):



I’m sitting at the hunting camp right now, making lists, schedules for the children at home, and going over adoption paperwork.  We leave for China in 4 days; yes I questioned the timing of this 48 hour get away.  Lee is archery hunting this weekend and his birthday is in 2 days so I decided to surprise him.  I’m so thankful I did as he is outside moving the tree stand; I’ve had time to conquer my list.  One of which was catching up on my journal.  God also knew I needed this quiet time before we leave.  The last couple months have been one of ups and downs in this busy season of life.  I’ve just come to realize that is part of the adoption process.  We were hoping to have our I800 approvals beginning of July and they came more than a month later.  We needed to file an addendum due to our home study showing we were adopting a 6-10 year old and when we filed for LiLi she was just shy of 6.  Then there was the call 3 weeks ago on a Monday can you leave Saturday.  I was in panic excitement mode but said sure.  Each day that week was one more disappointment, too many holidays, so we couldn’t get the required days in her province before heading to the consulate in Guangzou, expensive flights, and a huge trade show making hotels double the cost.  Waiting is another huge part of adoption.  I’ve learned I have no patience.  I’d check emails 20X a day looking for our dates to travel.  Finally the email came and all the civil affair appointments in her province, medical visits and the consulate appointment were scheduled and we had travel dates of Oct.  8 - Oct. 21.  Looking back once again I say to myself why I didn’t trust God, as he knew the perfect timing.  Leaving in mid-October allowed Kate to get a good start at school before being pulled out for two weeks, I was able to peacefully get ready for our travels, and I’m only missing one week of Cody’s soccer season.  God is so good!  HERE WE COME CHINA…

June 11th, 2015 (Thursday):

I’m a little overwhelmed this morning as I’m doing my devotions.  The tears are coming as I think of God’s goodness and how clear he was that LiLi is to be in our family.  The phone rings and Simi is on the line.  She says the oddest thing happened.  My heart sinks and my first thought is, was the hold on LiLi released and she was assigned to another family.  Simi realizes I’m scared and says no it’s a good thing.  I start breathing again and she explains we already have our LOA (letter of acceptance) from China.   I ask how this happened and she said there is no explanation; in fact it is absurd and unexplainable.  This means it saves time in our process and we could travel in 8 to 10 weeks.  Again I’m overwhelmed with God’s goodness, and know God once again did a little miracle for us.

June10th, 1015 (Wednesday)

Today was a race and a bit of a blur.  Kate had a swim party with little girls from her class after school celebrating the last day.  Our family doctor could only meet us at 4pm to review her medical papers.  I knew I couldn’t cancel Kate’s party as this was all she talked about the last couple weeks and had been baking for it the last two nights.  I considered having someone come and watch the girls while I went.  My running buddy and dear friend, Chelle encouraged me to not leave Kate and her friends as there would be enough things coming up that would need to change in our family due to the new little girl.  This party was so important to Kate.  She was right I needed to be there for Kate.  Then I thought of Mom Kauffman and how much medical knowledge she has and I felt a total peace.  

Simi got back to me with the family’s email address and I emailed them immediately.
I don’t think it was even 15 minutes and the pictures and video footage of this little girl were being sent my way.  Not only did she know this little girl but she had updated medical information from the fall, and pictures from just last week.  I was overwhelmed with excitement and awe of how awesome a God we serve!  Kelly and her husband started an organization called Sparrow Fund.  I was so impressed with their hearts and mission.  Kelly warned us if we were not going to an international adoption doctor he would most likely be very negative about this adoption.  Kelly said she clearly remembered the doctors working with her in the fall at the orphanage.  They gave her tasks of beading necklaces, pulling off stickers, and other fine motor skills with her good hand.  At the end of testing the doctors looked at each other and said with smiles “she is going to be ok”.  I ask Kelly why she had so many pictures and videos of Kylie.  She said “it’s just the smile Kris”.   Kelly said her nick name is LiLi (sounds like LeeLee)

Lee, Mom K, and I had a 10 minute impromptu meeting by the pond while Kate and her friends swam to go over everything I had learned that day about LiLi.  I felt a total peace as they left for the Doctor’s office.  As the swimming party was wrapping up Lee and mom K pulled in.  I saw smiles on their faces so I knew right away our family doctor had given the ok.  They gave me a quick overview of the meeting.  Dr. Vollmar felt the heart was repaired well watching her dance in one of the videos, and if not he said we have one of the best heart hospitals in the states next to us in Philly.  The cleft palate pictures revealed it was done well and the right limbs could be different scenarios but most likely due to lack of oxygen due to the heart condition. 


Lee and I felt without a doubt God had revealed in numerous ways LiLi was to be our little girl.  It is very unusual to get a lot of pictures and videos of a child from another source than the referral, to have someone who lives one hour from our house who just saw this little girl a week ago, her nickname is her new daddy’s name, and last of all favor from our doctor.  We knew each of these signs from God meant she was to be the newest Kauffman.  We emailed Simi our case worker and said YES.